Sign by Sign 7-04

by Eric Francis Coppolino, April 08, 2009

You can afford to be braver on matters such as having a little more fun.  Nature, however, is cleverer than a Jack Russell terrier, and you will find that in celebrating life with gusto you're being lured toward a turning point.  What amounts to entrenched old habits of relating have prevented you from exercising certain options because you cared too much about what other people thought of you.  Guilt is a likely factor.  In a sense, you silently agreed not to act a certain way or take up your own cause due to what were regarded as commitments.  You now have to decide the terms by which you will allow yourself to unmake what you made, or were convinced you made.  Anyway, you can be sure that other parties to the discussion have more than enough on their minds and might appreciate some serious independence on your part.  Beware of anyone who stands on mere principle - principles are for school; this is life. Recent chapters in your history have taught you not to underestimate the dark side of human nature.  Yet you still may not know what to do about it.  And you still may be blaming yourself for what you've been forced to confront and may still need to confront.  To the extent that you've been willing to do so, you owe yourself some gratitude for having drawn the line and set limits in a variety of circumstances that have called for just this.  What's clear now is that you need to be working with an exceedingly careful plan to set your life straight.  And you need to understand your relationship to certain men in your life, including your father and someone who looks like an uncle.  Both have cost you something emotionally.  However, both have given you something whether they intended to or not, and that is street smarts.  Now is the time to use it. This is a momentous time in your life, but I would not be the least bit surprised if you were feeling more than a little disoriented.  It turns out that the Venus transit of the Sun packed enormous punch, feeling something like a 121-year eclipse.  And like an eclipse, you're going to be feeling the effects of this for a long time.  But this is not the time to seek definitive answers as much as to explore the new territory of your life and figure out more or less where you are, where you're heading, and what you want.  It is clear that some enormous priority has shifted for you, some root-level value that has kept you attached to an entire agenda.  Now something much larger, obviously more important, clearly more vital, has been infused into your psyche.  Let it soak into your cells.  Let it grow. There is really no conflict between having a concrete strategy for handling sensitive situations, and handling them sensitively.  In fact, the two work well together.  You would be wise to include in your plan the awareness of when to be sexual with a certain individual and when not.  In any event, you are likely to be in "talk it out first" mode, which may indicate that you have much more in common with a partner than you're likely to have ever realized, and they have more in common with you than you ever realized.  The question is what to do with this common ground, which may have a boring quality; any fool knows that differences are interesting.  The answer is to keep seeking an unfulfilled need that one of you may have and, from your newfound space of total compassion, do something about it. I have a hunch you are hot onto one of the great mysteries of life, which is understanding how your inner wounds connect with those in other people.  In fact, the more aware of these relationships you are, the more you can be free of them.  This is a clear instance when knowledge is power.  In order to use it, you just need the nerves of a surgeon.  Which is cool, right?  That's what you want anyway.  Nerve in this case has a lot to do with choosing whether you are negatively or positively polarized in any given situation; whether you have the guts to expect a good outcome; and how creative you are at turning difficult situations into productive learning experiences.  Don't worry if you seem to be doing everyone's emotional work for them.  Someone has to do it, and your example counts for a lot. You're one of those people whose gifts are so rare and specialized, you may wonder what on Earth you'll ever do with them all.  Yet you're in one of the biggest "find your niche" moments of many years.  So Virgo, the not-so-Virgin emissary of Chiron, spirit of humanity: your job this month is to work it.  Work the crowd; work your contact network; work your craft; and most of all, work with yourself.  If you need help, ask for it.  If you have help to offer, offer it.  If you give your work away for free now, set a fee.  You will get it.  You are not so inexperienced as your humility suggests.  You're not so young as the fountain-of-youth quality you possess.  The world is tired and you are not.  The world is lost in its ways; you are finding yours.  This offers many connection points between you and creation.  You'll see.